Domestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) show up in many different forms. According to the Illinois Department of Human Services (IDHS) domestic violence happens in families or close relationships when one person tries to control the other person by physical, verbal, sexual or emotional abuse, also property or economic abuse.

Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) according to the Center of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is abuse or aggression that occurs in a close relationship, like DV it also happens in different forms, physical and and sexual violence, stalking (is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact by a partner that causes fear or concern for one’s own safety or the safety of someone close to the victim) and psychological aggression (the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm another person mentally or emotionally and/or to exert control over another person).

CDC says that IPV is common and it affects millions of people in the United States each year. Data from the National Intimate Partner Sexual Violence Suevet (NISVS) indicate that about 1 in 4 women have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime and reported some form of IPV-related impact. Also, over 43 million women (38 million men) experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

IPV Death Facts

According to the CDC, data from U.S. crime reports suggest that 16% (1 in 6) of homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner. The reports also found that nearly half of female homicide victims in the U.S. are killed by current or former male intimate partners.

In the state of Illinois IPV is relatively common among women homicide victims. Data show that of 200 women deaths most are IPV-related. Data also show that most of these deaths took place in the house or apartment of the victim. Young black women were most affected ( see chart — visit for data brief)

Real Life Accounts – Transparency

It is very important for women who have faced abuse in relationships and overcame it to speak openly about their experiences. It can help empower other women to get out of a dangerous situation.

I have not been in a relationship where I experienced abuse, but I was in a relationship where I felt I was being groomed. There is definitely a grooming phase. Where the person makes it seem as though they need you. They display much love and affection, sometimes gratitude, while at the same time violating your mental awareness of yourself. I know Katt Williams says in the realm of comedy that it’s called self confidence for a reason and it’s true, but what you’re fed about you can break down what you believe about you, sometimes for a moment others for a very long time.

A person can believe they are with an abuser for all the right reasons. To intrude on the abused person self awareness, they can compare them to others, create doubts about the relationship to make them feel as though they are not doing good enough to keep the person. If you are a fighter, in everything that you do you desire to do your best, so that is one way an abuser gets you wrapped into their cycle. Social media makes it easier nowadays for abusers to study their victims to become aware of their strengths and weaknesses.


According to the Center of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), research indicates that IPV is most prevalent in adolescence and young adulthood and then begins to decline with age, demonstrating the critical importance of early prevention efforts. IVDRS data show that black women 18-27 are most affected, women have to report and document everything, especially black women…even if the doctors do not ask, ask them, get mental health advice, raise concerns, advise that they document everything.

Domestic Violence Hotline

877.To End DV


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