Manifested Behaviors; Buried Issues

In a season of the manifestation of God’s blessings and grace, we have to bind-up and loose some things that has kept us bound to experience the promises.

We all carry some issues from our past. Take into consideration some of the reality shows that become our guilty pleasures. We see through some of these shows toxic friendships, marriages, parental relationships, and kinship. Relationships overall are at a very critical place. This could be because so many people are harboring hurts that they have never faced or do not see as hurt. We move through life building hurt upon hurt and in doing this what we build-up we ultimately give out.

“Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it,” {Proverbs 4:23 New International Version}

Many of us have not guarded our hearts. We allow ourselves to travel through sin disregarding what we allow in and what we are taking in through the process we will in turn give out.  Mark 7:21 – 23 says, For it is from within, out of a person’s heart that evil thoughts come — sexual immortality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. 23 All these evils come from inside and defile a person.

Luke 6:45 says, A good man brings good things out of the good stored-up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored-up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

In a sermon preached at New Faith Baptist Church International in Matteson, IL the Senior Pastor, Rev. Dr. Trunell D. Felder explained to the congregation that demons are disembodied spirits. They have to take up residence in a host, and they do this through trauma. If you leave it untreated it gets worse, then you have to lop it off, and when people experience trauma they can become fearful. For example, people who cannot be in healthy relationships may have had parental trauma and cannot trust anyone. There are many examples, but poor characteristics give demons a place to operate.

Buried issues manifest bad behaviors. What we have not dealt with will eventually run us and how we live our lives. How we live life will affect other people especially our children to where it can be or become a generational curse.

We can do good deeds; We can go to church; We can give to others; We can help people, but if our hearts are not right at some point those good things will only become just that, because the truth that is in your heart will manifest. For example, have you ever known someone who outside of home they are the sweetest most kind person, but once they get home they are mean, angry and bitter. Or, you see someone with the most bubbly personality then all of a sudden they turn on you and everyone around them and become angry and bitter with a grudge. Usually, there’s a buried issue there inside of them that a demonic spirit  has taken dominion over, and there’s a place of hurt or trauma that they have not dealt with giving that oppressive spirit reign over that area in their life. That person is possibly not out of their mind, but negatively inflicted by the enemy.

Not in being demon possessed, but we know that the enemy come to steal, kill and destroy. We say this as believers, but do we think about what that means. If you think that or have said it then you believe that there’s a spirit that is working against you, and a way that the enemy can attack us is through our relationships. If the enemy can cause us to disagree and cause discourse amongst us then it knows that the saints cannot operate in a power of agreement, which we know are one of the most powerful tools to bring down strongholds.

Dealing with issues do hurt, it does — that is a reality, and in the moment,  it may seem like ignoring them is the easiest  thing to do. However, the true reality is our issues are destroying us, hindering us from building healthy unions, raising our children, building legacies, breaking generational curses, supporting one another and our communities. We have many buried issues that manifest bad behaviors, and it is time for us to recognize the root of our own personal issues so that we can begin to come together and work together. As long as we are ignoring those deeply rooted problems the enemy will continue to run us right into hell.

We have to take authority knowing that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, so we do not have to bury our issues in a bottle, or through sex. We do not have to fall into depressions or turn to drugs to numb our hurts. We do not have to hate our child(ren) parent (in unwed) because things did not turn out how we intended. We do not have to hold a grudge toward our parents because they were not the parent’s we wanted them to be. We do not have to abuse, abandon or reject people in our relationships because that is what we feel people did to us through out our lives. All of those bad behaviors are carnal, and if the weapons of our warfare are not carnal we do not have to live these out. We can take authority over what manifest by guarding our heart’ s and filling it with the word of God.

Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.” {Psalms 27:10 New International Version (NIV)} 

Fear of Abandonment 

It is astonishing how people can go onto public sites and post things that are clear signs that there are deeply rooted issues within them, well into their adulthood and the response that they receive from other adults are responses of agreement. No encouragement, no links to good advice, but encouragement of their misery and positive reinforcement on bad behaviors. So many people use public forums to air the dirty laundry on their relationships that went south to either make who they were with look like the bad guy/girl or they go into rants about how love sucks, good people are treated badly, love is not fair, relationships are overrated and many other things that blame things and people on the outside, while never looking inside to see if the accumulation of bad relationships are partially or holistically because of a buried issue that they never faced that may make them have a hard time trusting people or effectively communicating.   

Goodtherapy.org says, a fear of abandonment can cause significant impairment and result in a diminished quality of life. Abandonment is an issue that many people deal with, but sometimes live their lives without recognizing it as an issue. The trauma from abandonment typically happens as a child and we carry those issues with us throughout our lives.  We grow to believe that the bad behaviors are just who we are. Goodtherapy.org says that fear of abandonment can lead to other challenges like anger, anxiety, depression, codependency and avoidance of intimacy.

Codependency, I find very prevalent now-a-days. In continuing on relationships, we see many young women being mother figures to men. When we see this, both the man and woman have a or some buried issues. A man being dependent on her mothering nurture and the woman’s desire to nurture a grown man are both manifested bad behaviors.   Both bad behaviors stem from mother and father issues. So, you have two broken people trying to fill a void. This in turn is why you end-up having people who lusted over one another, but never truly loving each other with children and as parents they cannot get along, or people who decided to shack-up, but do not like one another but both are too invested to just walk-away, or find themselves in a miserable marriage that ends with divorce. This all stems from a miscommunication neither person owning the fact that they  have hurt, which creates an unspoken expectation from both in the relationship, and something unspoken most likely never discovered cannot be healed or resolved, but the bad behaviors from it will always manifest.  Anytime we go into a relationships leading  with our issues it’s bound to fail. 

Many people like to wallow in their hurt and become the victim, some people like the attention they may get from it, some people just do not know how to leave their issues in their past without constantly replaying their hurtful circumstances over and over in their mind. But, if people look at it this way maybe they will walk away from their issues and live an abundant life. Jesus himself was too abandoned, how often do we think about that? The savior too experienced the same hurts the same pain, rejection, betrayal from people who were suppose to love him. After Jesus taught the disciples so many things, loved them and was with them when he was arrested all twelve of them abandoned him.  He also may have felt abandoned by his heavenly Father, but none of these feelings stopped Jesus from what he came on earth to do. The resurrection power is in everyone of us and we receive it through Jesus Christ. It’s important to guard your heart and deal with your personal traumas, but you get there by accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  

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